why is it, i said to julian the other day, that someone who is quite nice, and quite clever, and moderately nice-looking (meaning myself of course) cannot find a man?

julian: darling, i ask myself the same question all the time. and answer came there none.
me: what is the population these days? several billion it must be. so many men on this earth and not one person wants me!
Julian: JOIN THE CLUB. at least the odds are in your favor. i have all the same problems plus they have to be gay.

me: julian says he doesn't understand why neither of us can get a man, though he says his problems are greater than mine because they have to be gay too.
von: hahaha. possibly, but there are no shortages of gay men.
me: and then there are people like su-lin who don't want men at all. that ought to increase my odds in terms of availability.
von: no lah, crowding out effect doesn't diminish linearly


me: julian says i have a better chance of finding a man than he does because there are more straight men in the world.
yeen teck: he's wrong. he has an advantage over you. he is a fresh young asian boy in philly, the city of brotherly love, whereas in singapore you are overeducated and too big.

julian: i know someone i think you might rather like! he just seems rather your type intellectually speaking.
me: goody, tell me more. even if we don't get married have 2.5 kids and live in a hdb flat, it might still be good for several one night stands.
julian: listen, he has got languages!