it's the same thing every year. people are delighted when bear offers them his chocolates, but they refuse to thank him. it's like the business with ariel all over again. how can you go to someone's party and refuse to acknowledge they are real? you've got to decline if you don't wish to believe they're real because then going to their party would be meaningless. people are so much more sensible about bears at home, she says, much annoyed.