my dad called me and i was in a bad temper with him and afterwards i cried a bit and minyin called and i managed to get to sleep for a few hours but woke up suddenly and said to myself: timeo danaos et dona ferentes! why that came into mind i don't know, unless it's a premonition that if the department appears understanding it is really a bad thing and they'll impose some other penalty in other form - they've certainly done that to other people - and even in my own experience there have been so many instances in which they are seemingly generous and understanding and yet using their magnanimity to impose unfair conditions.