was pointing out to su-lin that for people like us the best bet is to marry a grad student who is going the us to do an advanced degree and go with him on a student spouse visa. you wouldn't have to work, because you're probably not allowed to work on your visa. and you would live in a wonderful university town and do volunteer work in the community and go to social events. and you would be able to read as much as you like any book you wished for could be got out of the university library by your grad student or you might join the local library and get 75 books out at once. and to fill the rest of the time you could go to lectures and university events and do your own research and reading without actually having to get a place or do the work. you'd have to do some of the housework but that is tolerable and all the rest of it has to do with hand-holding and cooing comforting things when essay time comes along. you mightn't even be all that poor because you might bring a dowry to the arrangement. there we go.